18 SIGNS THAT SHOWS YOU IF THE PERSON YOU LOVE LOVES YOU TOO.

Have you ever listened to Johnny Drille or any other artiste that sings love songs?

Sweetening lyrics that appeals to one’s emotion as you find yourself reminiscing your love life while listening to them.

Truly, Love is a beautiful thing.
Of course it becomes only beautiful when you’re with the right person whose desire of you matches your desire of him/her.

Hmmmmmmmmm….

To love is great, but to be loved is greater. So exhilarating.

No one wants a one-sided love. Naaahhhhh, it’s way too exhausting and demanding.

After deciding that truly, the butterflies I feel in my stomach means I’m in love with this person, one is faced with searching for answers to the puzzling thoughts in our mind, ‘does he love me too?’ to save ourselves from the confusion syndrome of mistaking an act of kindness to Love in detail.

Often times, we search his eyes for cues during a physical discussion among other things we do. We could even ask provocative questions to make them open up or spill it out…

😂…but that trick don’t  work most of the time because you may end up getting answers you only want to hear or reading signals you want to see and not knowing their intentionality at that.
Hence, the puzzle remain unsolved.

Here’s my thought though 🤔, I think it’s more easier for a guy to know if and when a lady returns his love than for a lady to know. As most ladies tend to show much vulnerability in this course.
Just a thought though.

There’s no guaranteed way to let you know if the person you love is in love with you too, but there are certain clear signs that could make you tell the difference.

In the course of this article, I’ll be highlighting some of these signs.

Enjoy your Voyage through this article…😉

When someone is in love with you;

1. THEY MAKE YOU FEEL IT: In reality, you don’t have to strain to see the signs that someone loves you as true love is shown through actions i.e the way a person makes you feel.

You feel loved and cherished as he constantly reminds you verbally and non-verbally how much you mean to him. In your daily conversations, it’s evident.

Even when you’re miles apart. You won’t even have to experience mixed feelings/signals in the sense that, they may not be saying the word ‘I love you’ regularly but show you through their subtle actions.

Love is most visible in the small everyday life.

Rather than sweeping you off your feet in a lavish gesture, they show up in a simple, steady, caring and assuring way.

It’s not always about the quantity (number of times it is said) but the quality (how and when it is said).

2. THEY MAKE YOU FEEL SAFE AND SECURE WITH THEM: There’s no fear of beating nor pressure to do what you don’t want to do. They won’t damage or hurt you physically, neither your possessions. No fear of abuse or being misquoted. They don’t worry you too much over why you didn’t pick up or respond to their chat on time or text back right away, as they would have already make up an excuse for you in their mind already.

If you don’t feel secure and desired in your relationship, or he seems to enjoy keeping you guessing, then probably it’s time to move on to better things.

3. THEY ARE HONEST WITH YOU EVEN WHEN IT’S HARD: Being honest in some situations may be kinda hard, especially when you did something wrong or your partner is in the wrong. But,

A person who’s in love with you won’t look away from your bad, try to bury their wrong or mistakes,or what is going on at that moment, but would ‘gently’ tell you the truth when you need to hear it, without condemning you.

4. THEY TAKE AN ACTIVE INTEREST IN THE DETAILS OF YOUR LIFE: Details such as your favorite color, meal, style of dressing, birthday, hobbies (including your weird hobbies) e.t.c. and remember everything about you, even the small details, like how you like your icecream flavor combo as strawberry with vanilla e.t.c.
Lol… Don’t find it funny when you even see them trying to participate in that weird hobby with you and they seem to catch fun while at it with you, even though it’s not their thing in the first place. It’s not pretense or anything, but coz they just want to see you laugh hard and be happy.

5. THEY MAKE AN EFFORT: You only make an effort for anything and everything you care about. Building love requires effort big time.

If someone tells you “we’re meant to be” after just one day of meeting, lol, my dear, just know that such person is probably just trying to manipulate your emotion, don’t fall for that trick.

Love, like Rome, isn’t built in a day but rather, it’s a process.

Someone who truly loves you and genuinely care, would want to build your love from the scratch and up, by expressing an interest in getting to know you and prioritizing time together.

6. THEY ARE WILLING TO GO THE ‘EXTRA MILE’ FOR YOU: Even without being asked, once they sense a pressing need from you, they’re willing to do all they can to ensure it is met. Could be a need, an errand, a project, e.t.c. Not for their own selfish reason or to gain favor from you, but rather, because they don’t want you or can’t stand you being disturbed or bothered by anything.

7. THEY WON’T WITHHOLD THEIR LOVE OR AFFECTION BECAUSE YOU DISAGREE WITH THEM TILL YOU AGREE WITH THEM: You’ll rather feel comfortable when disagreeing to agree with them coz they won’t impose their opinion on you or give you conditions that aren’t palatable. They allow you make your own decision and would give all necessary support. They may even offer guidance and advice when asked but won’t try to control your choice or behavior by manipulating you.

8. THEY PRIORITIZE YOU AND PAY MORE ATTENTION TO KNOW YOU: No matter their busy schedule, they just want to reach out. They try to make time out because you’re important to them.

You could imagine a guy who is yet to eat breakfast but is worried about a lady who, although had eaten breakfast but her stomach is making that rumbling sound, and this guy stood up to get something for her to eat even without her complaining or asking, but he sensed the need. Probably that’s all he had on him to spare.

Some would call it foolishness, but no. It’s the power of love. It’s the lady then that needs to apply wisdom and ask if the guy had eaten too or just offer to share the meal with him. That is Love. Not the one that would ‘gluttonously‘ finish the meal without asking the offerer if he’s had his own share. SELFLESS LOVE

9. THEY GIFT YOU SPONTANEOUSLY: Birthdays, valentine’s day, wedding anniversary e.t.c. are special days to show your special one that you love and value them, what you share and how important they are to you. But imagine if on a normal day, no special occasion or anniversary and they just showed up at your doorstep or probably sent a delivery guy to drop a beautiful flower or package for you. Lol … Breathtaking right?

But you have to thread carefully here and ensure that this isn’t the only sign you’re seeing, or what he or she is doing most to show he/she loves you… gifts can be deceiving and if you’re too materialistic, you’ll get deceived by it. He needs to complement it with any other sign (s) as highlighted in this article.

10. THEY ARE EMPATHETIC TOWARDS YOU AND LOOK FOR WAYS TO MAKE LIFE EASIER: Your happiness is their happiness. Your pain, their pain. When you’re upset, they’re upset. They are just so affected by your mood.

It is not just that they’re having your back but they have strong feeling for you.

Seeing that you’re stressed, they could offer to help with one or two things even when you don’t ask them, because they feel the stress you’re going through. For instance, during the era of using stove to cook, he walks in and sees you battling with the stove and without saying a thing, bought and brought a cooking gas for you to use.

11. THEY CONNECT AND INTRODUCE YOU TO IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN THEIR LIVES: e.g. friends, families , relatives e.t.c. This is a clear sign that someone wants to be with you. They don’t hide you from people close to them.

Even in times of opportunities, they refer and connect you to their connections, to make your life or work easier.

12. THEY GIVE MEANINGFUL COMPLIMENTS AND SAY I LOVE YOU FOR NO REASON AT ALL: This is not because they need a favor or because it just feels like the right thing to say but to show that they really appreciate you.

Note: your loved one may not have to shower you with compliments all the time (Quality over Quantity). A spontaneous remark even when you least expect.

Instead of saying I love you, they could just look at you and gaze you and then say, ‘Wow, I’m so proud to have you’ or “I’m proud of you” e.t.c. you would also feel the genuineness when they say it.

13. THEY TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE WITH YOU AND SHARE WHAT’S GOING ON IN THEIR LIFE: Take this seriously. If, during your conversation, they often mention the future with you, how your children will look like, numbers of children they would like to have, things they would like to do or places they would like to visit with you, that, probably may be a sign they are into you.

The future is not something you reveal to just anybody. You only reveal your plans to someone you trust and care about so much.

And not just that, if they’re able to tell you what’s going on in their life at the moment, make themselves vulnerable to you, let you in on everything, my dear, they’re richly in love with you. You should treasure that.

Not every man can express themselves freely like that, even with someone they love, it takes time for them to do that, while some are not just expressive. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you though. But you see, someone who opens up and tell you his mind as it is…or even ask for your advice, take them serious.

14. THEY SHOW UP AND FIND LITTLE WAYS TO SHOW THEY CARE:
Listen, everything is not about money, though money is an important factor that boosts relationship but it not the basics.

If someone can show up physically and mentally, they are always there when it’s time for a conversation, they’ll acknowledge the need to communicate with you, when you want to vent, they are there for you and would give you a listening ear. Not just that. They try to make you feel good afterwards by doing something to brighten your mood.

Even when they can’t help directly in some situations, probably financially, they still ask about what’s wrong or suggest things to do, who to help or how to go about it. It doesn’t matter how huge the concern is, they’ll dip into their deep heart of care and do anything they can, no matter how little. They are genuinely in love with you. That’s why you need to appreciate every act of concern and care shown.

Except in cases where you don’t feel the same way with the person, then you shouldn’t be comfortable asking for too much from such or manipulating them to do more for you when you know you can’t give them what it is they seek from you. Desist from such acts.

You’re only free to accept their kind gestures only, when you’ve made it clear to them you stand on their request but they insist on them helping. Even at that, be careful.

15. THEY APOLOGIZE SINCERELY WHEN IN THE WRONG: It’s not easy to admit you’re wrong, especially for some male who are egoistic. But when he sincerely apologizes even without you throwing a fit that they’re wrong, they acknowledge they’re wrong and apologizes sincerely, you mean a lot to them then. I’m not talking about the conventional way of saying ‘ I’m sorry’ just to clear things up.

16. THEY TELL YOU WHEN YOU WRONG THEM AND FORGIVE YOU: No matter what you do to wrong them, they won’t hold it against you for long. They’ll call you to calmly inform you of what you did wrong and will forgive you instead of holding the grudge against you. Why? Because they love you so much and can’t stand being angry with you for long. You’re so precious to them and they don’t want to lose you.

17. THEY CELEBRATE AND MAKE BIG FUSS ABOUT YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS: Big or small, necessary or not, they’re always so excited about your wins and make big fuss about it. Even when you tell them it’s nothing, they show you it’s something and could just throw a mini party to celebrate it with.

18. THEY LET YOU KNOW THAT YOU’RE ON THEIR MIND AND THAT THEY MISS YOU: You know, at times, we just sit and thought of someone came rushing to our mind, then we pick up our phone to follow up. If we’re not restricted at the moment, we can call the person to hear his or her voice or we could send a short mid-day text, or anytime of the day we felt it ‘ hey beauty/handsome, hope your day is going well? Thinking about you.’

But nah…so many don’t follow up this feeling, they would rather push it over and say, ‘I don’t want him/her to think I’m desperate’ or ‘ I’ll do that later’, but you don’t know the trick or magic you’re missing out on with that.

Imagine how you would feel if at the middle of a stress filled day you just saw a pop up message from the one you’re catching butterflies for, and the content of the message was just to check on you or tell you how much he’s missing and thinking about you.
You’ll smile right?

And at that moment, it’s not a distraction coz you feel the same way towards the person too. You would try to respond the text and then go ahead with the day’s activities with the little girl/boy inside you grinning from ear to ear. You feel elated and refreshed.

It could even be that probably it’s been a while you saw each other, or you both went to work and just meeting at the end of the day, a caring hug or a kiss on the forehead would send the signal that this person misses you a lot and cherish moments with you. This isn’t about sex.

But I’ve just observed that many a time, in the early aspect of loving, no one wants to feel vulnerable. But the truth of the matter is that, one must be vulnerable and act vulnerably for the other to see and sense the love. You just have to know your limits.

In summary,

A person who loves you back the way you love him/ her would do the following:

• Make you feel it.

• Make you feel safe and secure.

• Be honest with you even when it’s hard.

• Take an active interest in the details of your life.

• Make an effort.

• Be willing to go the extra mile for you.

• Won’t withhold their love or affection from you because you disagree with them, till you agree with them.

• Prioritize you and pay more attention to know you.

• Gift you spontaneously.

• Be emphatic towards you and look for ways to make life easier for you.

• Tell you when you wrong them and forgive you

• Celebrate and make big fuss about your achievements.

• Connect and introduce you to important people in their lives.

• Give meaningful compliments and say I love you for no reason at all.

• Talk about the future with you and share what’s going on in their life.

• Show up and find little ways to show they care.

• Apologize sincerely when in the wrong.

• Let you know you’re on their mind and that they miss you.

If after reading this article, you’re still struggling to figure out whether or not a guy loves you, it just means the love is not there and you’re not experiencing it. Chances are, he’s not the right one.

Because, in reality, the best guy/girl won’t make you doubt his/her feelings.

It’s time to move on to better things.

Thanks for reading through to the end of the article 🤗.

I hope you find this helpful. 👍

I’ll like to hear from you in the comment section.👇👇👇

Your favorite 21st century counselor.