……staring deep into his misty brownish eye with my hands draped over him and my head resting on his broad chest while I listened to the rhythm of his heart…. “If only this love journey is all about romance.”
We live in a world where we’ve been conditioned to believe that romantic love is the best love to be searched for. Judging from the telenovelas on our TV screens and different posts on love as seen on our social media.
The butterflies/churning in the stomach when s/he smiles at you, smiling and giggling at your phone while chatting with him or over phone conversations, the late night calls/chats you’re always eager to pick or respond to, the anticipated texts on your phone morning, day and night.
The one whose cuddle you yearn for, if possible have 24/7.
Or is it about the exciting and thrilling moments when bae spontaneously gifts you even when it’s not your birthday? The late night dates, hangouts at the cinema, vacations e.t.c.
Moments when bae suddenly shows up at your door or sent a delivery guy to drop a bouquet of flowers or some nice packages with a lovely note in it for you.
Love with all of it’s romantic adventures 🥰💕.
Romantic love is sweet, but then, love isn’t about romance alone as romance is only a small portion of what love has to offer, hence, shouldn’t be seen or accepted as the standard of love.
Love/Relationship is a journey, a developmental one at that, which you can either embark on consciously or unconsciously.
Of course, the unconscious journey, often built on ephemeral romantic love, burns faster and bright, can die swiftly and may lead to disaster. An example is one that starts with, “…let’s see how it goes” or “let’s just go with the flow.”
The conscious journey, however, may be quite challenging and exciting as well, but leads to a true lasting fire of intentional love – profound, authentic and rewarding.
You need to consciously and intentionally choose, between the temporary lure and illusion of romance and a more rewarding, fulfilling long term commitment/relationship.
But the thing is, when individuals are willing to do the necessary dedicated work, ephemeral romantic love can always be transformed to a long lasting, rewarding, healthy relationship, with the right skills such as commitment, mutual devotion and combination of energy of both parties to create a mature and lasting love.
Final note….
Having a romantic partner is great, makes loving feel easy, but having a partner who is understanding, supportive and encouraging is greater, that even when the challenges of marriage and child bearing pops up, they’re still there, loving you and holding your hands through it all.
Be intentional and take your relationship beyond romance.
Hi, I am Boluwatife Adesina, a counselor who loves to write.
I am passionate about life, love and relationships, so, I write down my views about them, which birthed this blog.
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