WILL YOU BE MY VALENTINE?

“Doubt thou the stars are fire; Doubt that the sun doth move; Doubt truth to be a liar; But never doubt I love”.

William Shakespeare

My description of Valentine’s day

Although, valentine’s day, also known as Saint Valentine’s day has its historical origin from stories of certain christian martyr named Valentine during the Roman empire in the third century; the day has been widely/ globally regarded as a special day of celebrating love and affection between friends, families, lovers or couples.

Anually celebrated on February 14th, it is a day many people look forward to and make plans for, even though you do not have to use the day as an excuse to gift someone or express your feelings, but it does provide a good opportunity to express your mind and romantic nature, freely.

For the purpose of this article, I’ll be discussing about Valentine from the romantic point of view, the lens of opposite genders, lovers and intending lovers.

It’s few days to valentine and there’s been a lot of posts here and there about valentine, valentine’s package, gift ideas for him or her e.t.c. There’s a popular joke as well about valentine package vendors being more than those in relationships (laughs). But seriously, ladies, have you been asked the question, will you be my val? Guys, have you popped up the question to anyone?

Well, except for those who are in a committed relationship or married, there is no reason to skip the part of formally asking someone to be your valentine prior to the day. Married folks can also apply this to spice up their romantic life, although automatically, they are each other’s val. But sadly, valentine’s day has been misconceived by some to be a day for exploitation, getting laid, or a day that must be compulsorily celebrated with a man, hence, the desperation for any guy to just pop the question, will you be my val?

What does it mean when someone asks you to be their val?

This question is commonly put forward by the male to the female and does not automatically translate that the day is only going to be about the lady.

It is supposed to be a simple question with a straight “Yes!” answer, but because some people manipulate this as a way of asking a lady to be their girlfriend, it becomes a very tricky question to answer. So, rather than say directly, will you be my girlfriend? They say, will you be my valentine?

Asking someone to be your val can be a way of saying ‘I like you’, ‘I have a crush on you’, or it could mean, ‘I choose you as the person I want to spend time with or show fondness to’, will you go out with me? More like a request for a date or they are trying to be in a relationship with you. Whichever the case might be, it shows that they are interested in you and it doesn’t necessarily mean you are already romantically involved, but, it is a start and may lead to a more exclusive relationship between you two.

It is, however, your duty to clarify if it’s a casual thing, or it goes beyond the valentine celebration. If you both want to take it up to the next level, then it’s only right to define the relationship properly and not just assume. Don’t be carried away with the idea of somebody’s son spoiling you silly and you forget the emotional attachment that may be involved. Clarify! Don’t assume.

PS: Valentine’s day don’t have to be compulsorily celebrated on the 14, especially for one that falls during the work week when many people would be busy with work (like this year’s val), you can choose a more convenient time with your partner to mark the day. And, if you have been chosen as someone’s valentine, it is expected that you do not be on the receiving end alone, gift them with a token of love as well – sex is not on the list.

When is the best time to pop the question, “will you be my val?”

I do not think there is a rule stating this, but what I do think is that, it is best for you to ask ahead of the day. This positions you to know if she’s free to take up your request or fixed.

It would also give you both enough time to think and plan ahead of the day.

Also, it would make her feel special than when it is a last minute question, she definitely may not take you serious. Actually, depending on the level of your closeness or relationship, she may still not take you serious irrespective of when and how you ask. (Some ladies can be weird) *laughs

It is of course important that you’ve both spend some time in knowing a lot or little about each other, enough to make you both comfortable and confident around each other.

On this note, I’ll like to say, happy Valentine’s day everyone. I hope you have a significant celebration.

Thanks for reading. 😊

Do let me know your thoughts in the comment section.

Xoxo 💕

TM