Catching Butterflies 🦋🦋🦋 In Your Belly?

8 THINGS TO LOOK OUT FOR BEFORE CONCLUDING YOU ARE TRULY IN LOVE

(No. 5 is so common with ladies)

Have you ever been at crossroads where you have to ask yourself and decide if you’re truly/really in love with someone or it’s just a feeling of crush or likeness?

Like, am I really in love?🤔

Coz there’s this tangling feeling I have in my heart when I see someone I like. You feel that too?

The kind that makes you feel like your heart is clenching and it’s restricting your airflow. You feel like you can’t breathe without the person.

Butterflies in your stomach.🥰🥰🥰

Isn’t that all it takes to know you’re in love?

Well,

Maybe or maybe not.

But here are 8 tips to know when, and if, you can bank on those butterflies.

Before we proceed, please note, that some of this things may also appear in a feeling of crush or infatuation, but then, that’s why I have listed about 8, so you can cross check with others and not bank on one.

With that being said, let’s proceed.😊

1. There’s this natural smile, feeling of calmness and litness in your eyes that adds glow to you when you are around the person or when you talk about the person with your friends: This made me remember a time I was having a conversation with Ore, my male bestie then, I had wanted to gist him about a new guy that I was having this tangling feeling for then, and I wanted to ask for his opinion about the person, you know, looking from a guy’s angle, and would you believe that, before I could open my mouth to say ‘A’, Ore just said, “my friend is in love, just tell me who the lucky guy is”. 🤣🤣🤣. But like I said, you can’t make your conclusion on just one premise.

2. The person is literally on your mind always: You always have this person at the back of your mind and his or her image always flash before you. It could be that you were having a conversation with your group of friends and you’re talking about love and relationships, at the back of your mind, it’s his or her picture that is flashing there, you may even be taking a stroll somewhere and you caught a glimpse of a lady/guy figure, their picture would flash in your mind and you’ll either pick up your phone to call or text him or her. Lol…that’s how the magic of love works. You could even be passing by a boutique and saw a displayed dress and thoughts of ‘how would this look on him/her’ drops in, then you purchase it.

3. Feeling of empathy and genuine worry:  Do you see yourself genuinely interested in listening to their worries and doing anything to help them? You may not even wait for the person to ask for help before rendering assistance coz you’ve start feeling empathy for the person. You just want things to be fine with them and you contribute whatever quota you can to ensuring that.

4. Thinking about shared moments and memories: Do you find yourself thinking about the time spent together with the person and you felt warm and happy thinking about them? In your head, you’ve started reimagining another beautiful moment to create and spend with the person. My brother, my sister…😁😁😁

Let’s proceed…shall we?

5. Thoughts of a future with that person begins to creep in: This is very peculiar with ladies. You start thinking about attaching his family name to your first name. 🤣🤣🤣. At this point, some guys with a ‘not so fine’ surname suffer ehn… Lol… But that’s a talk for another day. Should surname be a criteria to consider in a relationship?🤔🤔🤔.

Well, as I was saying, the lady begins to play with the surname and her first name in her mind. Imagining how it would sound to be called ‘Mrs…..’.

How about trying to combine both names together to form the ‘now so popular’ name code e.g. Tolani and Babajide (Toba2021).

You start imagining how your first meeting with his/her parent would look like… This journey is going beyond just crush or likeness… It’s becoming a journey to forever …😍😍😍

6. You get intensely curious about him/her: Do you find yourself doing some weird personal research about the person? Like, going through the person’s social media page and surfing through it’s content dated backwards, asking personal or intimate questions from the person, or from those close to the person.

But note: checking through someone’s social media page constantly may be a sign of serious crush, but when you check with the other tips I’ve mentioned, you may be able to coordinate your feelings.

7. Prioritizing him/her over every other thing: For instance, no matter the number of unread messages on your phone, you endure you respond to his/her chat first, others may be left unattended to. When you miss that person’s call together with other friends or crushes, you would want to return the person’s call first or drop a message. You may even want to get caught up in an impromptu busy schedule, you endure you place a call through to them or drop a message to keep them abreast of the situation and from getting unnecessarily worried.

8. How do you act around the person? Do you always look out for them among groups of friends? Paying attention to when they want to talk, what they want to say e.t.c? You never want any of their action to slip by you. Do you always want to have him or her around you and tend to act clingy? Though you should thread carefully here coz if you love someone, you should always give them space to spend time with their friends or family members. Don’t choke them up.

Now that you’ve been able to conclude you’re truly in love, how would you know if the person you’re in love with feels the same way too???

🔜 HOW TO KNOW IF THE PERSON YOU LOVE LOVES YOU. (this would be discussed in the next post).

Do let me know your thoughts about this post in the comment section.

I remain, your favorite relationship coach,

Tife Margaret,

The 21st Century Counselor.