How to ask a lady to be your Valentine.

There are a lot of ways to ask someone you love to be your val, but for the purpose of this article I will categorise them into three:

1. The Direct Approach
2. Indirect Approach
3. Creative Approach

I’ll explain each of these approach accordingly, but before you go ahead with any of them, be sure to have confirmed she is not married or have a partner already. One way to confirm is to bring up conversations about Valentine before the day or a simple question like ‘what do you think about Valentine?’ or ‘what’s your plan for Valentine?’ can give you the hint you need. Just ensure you listen well to her response.

That being clarified, you can wink at cupid as you go ahead to shoot your shot using any of the approaches below:

The Direct Approach

This is a straightforward approach which depends on your level of confidence. You can ask over the phone, through social media chat, text message or physically (in a face-to-face appearance). Ensure you ask in a relaxed way after a healthy conversation.

Pro Tip:

• If you intend popping the question directly in a physical meeting with her, ensure you dress nicely and hygienically, but most importantly wear something you would feel comfortable in. This is to create a good impression on her.
• Don’t be so formal, keep it simple. You can compliment her looks to begin with, ask about her day or things of interest and so on. The point of this is to create a relaxing and fun atmosphere for the safe landing of your question. keynote is: be yourself. Do not try to overly impress, that may ruin the moment.
• If you intend asking in a face-to-face conversation, be sure to set up a conducive and safe environment where the both of you would feel comfortable and safe to sit and talk. Remember it is not just about you, so you have to put some good amount of consideration as regards her, in your choice of location.
• Be courteous enough to use a direct message link over the social media and not an open comment box if you want her to take you serious, while a text message can contain short words of appreciation before the initial question is asked.

The Indirect Approach

This approach is one that is not so obvious. You act like you are not even aware of or concerned about the event of the day or specific date, but then you go ahead and invite her to a movie, restaurant or any outdoor event. In this approach, you do not directly say anything to her about being your valentine but your choice of date may give you away. It may sometimes be impromptu.

Pro Tip:

• Get your facts right and be sure she has no other engagement for the day. You can either talk to some of her friends to gather information or you ask her about her plans for the day, in case she confirms her availability, you could then offer to take her out.

The Creative Approach

This has been the widely accepted approach some agree to be the only acceptable way of asking a lady to be your val. It varies one to another but the key note of this approach is that it must have a personal touch – your creative touch.

Pro Tip:

• This approach may involve money, depending on what you are going for and how much you are willing to spend, but keep in mind that it is a pre-valentine gift and not necessarily expensive or grand.
• Sending a box of her favourite snack with a little note that bares your mind attached, a personalized valentine card, a box of chocolate, a bouquet of flower, a teddy e t c. are creative ways to adopt.
• You can also use your creative skill e.g sing – if you’ve got the voice; paint – if you’re an artist; create a personal video for her; write a poem, if you’re a writer.

In conclusion, asking a lady out for Valentine requires genuinety. The more genuine and real you are, the more chances you have with her, but the most important thing to remember is that you should never ask the question without getting to know the person.

So, let me know, which of these approaches you prefer? You can use the comment box freely.

Let’s have a significant celebration.

Thanks for reading 😊

Xoxo 💕