Actions like a little raise in voice pitch than usual can send shivers down the spine of our loved one, causing them to shudder. Why? Because, they are so emotionally inclined to us that whatever we do or say have much effect on them than it does to others.
A bad day, frustration at work or life in general can make you say things you do not really mean to say or shouldn’t have said to your partner and this hurts.
It hurts to hurt the one you love and it hurts when someone you love hurts you, but hurt is part of life.
We all make mistakes and hurt people sometimes, but if not deliberate, we need to show remorse, this shows that we are aware of our actions and willing to take responsibility for it.
Here are few things you could do:
- Don’t ignore – acknowledge, admit and address it. Don’t just feel guilty and not talk about it or assume (s)he didn’t notice, or probably it’s no big deal. Once you recognize your mistake, act on it.
- Open up – communicate with your partner, make them understand what the problem is, where the frustration/ pressure is coming from, what led to the outburst. You may not have the calmness to talk about it immediately but you need to open up to them at the long run. Keeping an open communication with your partner will leave no room for miscommunication/ misinterpretation of words or action. Talk it out with your partner.
- Sincerely apologize and work on improving yourself – this is what matters most. Apologize sincerely and don’t stop there, deliberately work on improving yourself so that you watch out for things you do or say that hurts them and you stop doing those things.
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